A small beginner dildo that every girl should own

Updated: 07/08/2018

Dildos come in all different shapes and sizes and trust me, I have tried out my fair share of dildos but there was a time when I was on a quest to find the best small beginner dildo, something non-intimidating that makes you feel amazing but isn’t so in your face that you’re scared about using it.

There was a time when dildos and large sex toys actually put me off and anything that looked too big was a no from me. Even normal sized dildos were somehow ‘too big’ in my brain and I wanted something smaller and less average, I am not sure where this came from as I had tried out big dick before it was just intimidating for me to think about a ‘large dildo’.

I wanted a smaller dildo so that I could learn how to orgasm and pleasure myself through my G-spot, I wanted to really learn myself and learn what I liked by going at different speeds, testing different motions and testing out the pressure I enjoyed on my G-spot without the pressure of doing it with a man.

Finding this dildo was going to be like having a practice cock that I could use to test all of my abilities with and learn how to pleasure myself properly.

Thinking of this dildo as my tester cock makes me laugh as it really was, it allowed me to learn so much about myself and there was a time when picking it up and finishing myself off was just the norm and something I loved doing. (Read this article to see what happened when I had my first ever anal orgasm).

I then got a boyfriend who was up for anything and we used my dildo during sex. He used the sex toy on me, made me cum and we also used it to simulate threesomes. It was great for me as it felt amazing and when I got a real cock I didn’t have to leave my trusted dildo behind that had taught me everything about myself and my G-spot.

The Best Small Dildo I Was Talking About  

small dildo in womans hand

This is the beginner realistic dildo. It has a 4.5-inch girth so it’s ideal for beginners and definitely not intimidating.

It’s extremely realistic and feels amazing when it glides inside of you, the realistic head and shaft really allow you to experience realistic sensations and practice what feels good for you. I also love the suction cup base as it allows you to put the dildo in all sorts of places and allows you to experiment with different positions and learn what you like with little to no work.

The bulbous head and the generous but not intimidating 6-inches feels amazing against your g-spot and thanks to the suction cup base and realistic balls you have a lot of grip for those times you really want to go in hard and experiment with new and different techniques.

The reason I chose to use this small beginner dildo was that I wanted something that was like a real cock without it actually being a real cock. I wanted something that would allow me to learn what I liked and I found that using this dildo was the way to do it.

What People Say About This Beginner Dildo:

All of these reviews are from the website that this dildo is sold from, I always use them for all of my sex toys and wouldn’t trust using anybody else.

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How To Use A Dildo (The Reality)

If you’re using a dildo for the first time or just want to learn how to really take your abilities up to a whole new level when using a dildo, I am going to share with you everything I have learnt over the years. Take my advice, tweak it to suit you and enjoy a new orgasm experience.

Warm up your vagina

vagina warm up technique

For me, this was an absolute essential as it allowed me to really get into the mood and surprisingly it made my orgasm more intense.

Warming up for me meant touching myself, reading some erotic stories or watching some porn, I liked to feel my entire body and really take in what I felt like. I would then move on to my clitoris (I love clit stimulation) and touch myself for some time before taking my dildo and just rubbing it on my pu**y.

I would continue playing with my clit and slowly push my dildo inside of myself and from there I would just let my body take over and thrust the dildo inside of myself whilst stimulating my clitoris.

Another way I liked to warm up was using my dildo in the bath which was lit only by candlelight and reading some erotic novel, often I wouldn’t even make it out of the bath before cumming.

I find its really important to warm yourself up and not just dive straight into it, it gives your body time to become stimulated, horny and become teased so that each touch feels heart-racingly good.

Don’t give up (change speeds, positions, and thrusts)

dildo technique

It can be hard to orgasm through using just a dildo alone, which is why I used to pair clitoral stimulation with G-spot stimulation, however now I know that it is entirely possible to just stimulate your G-spot and orgasm, it just takes a little more patience.

The biggest problem a lot of us face is that it just didn’t feel like the orgasm is ever going to come but perseverance is key. Keep thrusting the dildo in and out, change the speed at which you are thrusting, change positions if it makes it easier to go deep and learn which type of thrusts feel best for you.

Once it feels like you’re going to pee, don’t stop, keep going through it because at the other end of that feeling awaits a powerful G-spot orgasm.

Dildo thrusting techniques

dildo thrust techniques

Perfect these techniques and enjoy different types of stimulation and really allow yourself to learn what you like and what will stimulate you.

  • Deep

Thrusting deep is one of the top favorites as you can really push against your G-spot with virtual pin-point accuracy. Although it can get tiring. My dildo comes with a suction cup base so you can actually ‘ride’ it whilst going deep and it’s a lot less work than thrusting it in and out of you constantly. However, switching up between using your hand to thrust the dildo and riding it, is the best combination.

  • Shallow & short

This is one of my favorite techniques, it feels great, especially as you climax. The rhythm can be hard to keep up but if I am horny and ready to orgasm then it is usually a pretty quick process and isn’t too tiresome.

This technique is easiest with you controlling the thrusts as if you try and do it by securing the suction cup to something you will end up going too deep and this is all about shallow and short thrusts.

  • Turning

This is where you turn the dildo left-to-right and doesn’t involve much thrusting. This isn’t a technique I use but I have tried it out and there are some women out there who will enjoy this tip of stimulation.

It’s a fairly easy technique and if you are exploring yourself and testing out what you like and are just looking to get more from your dildo and orgasm, do try it out, along with every other technique, remember everyone is different and just because in porn the woman slams the dildo in and out of herself, it doesn’t mean you have to like that.

  • Clitoral stimulation

I love clitoral stimulation and when I pair this with dildo thrusts it makes me cum so hard. I love love love experiencing blended orgasms which do happen with this technique.

This is the bullet vibrator that I couldn’t live without and I do think this is the best kind of vibrator to use with my dildo as its small enough to not get in the way but although it’s small it’s more than powerful enough to have you screaming out in pleasure.

Mixing clitoral and G-spot stimulation is a match made in heaven and one of the best ways to use a dildo and learn what an intense orgasm really is.

  • Anal stimulation

If you want to go one step further try anal stimulation mixed with dildo thrusts. This is my favorite beginner butt plug, it feels amazing and gives you a different type of stimulation.

The feeling of being ‘full’ gets so many women off and pairing this with my beginner dildo is enough to send some over the edge.

You do have to get into the correct position when using a butt plug and thrusting and for me this would be securing my dildo onto the floor and riding it whilst the butt plug is securely in place or securing my dildo to my headboard and getting on all fours and thrusting into it, however everyone is different and my best advice would be to just test what feels good and learn all about your own body.

Dildo Positions

dildo sex position

My favorite thing in the world is being able to help others orgasm and discover themselves on a whole new level and I believe that when it comes to using dildos you need to get into the perfect position.

The position you’re in is so important because it stops you from getting tired if you’re in the right one and allows you to experience different sensations.

  • On my Back (Keeping it simple) – Legs flat – Legs bent – Legs held up
  • Sitting Down
  • On my side (legs closed = my fav position)
  • Face down
  • Riding that suction cup dildo

Use that suction cup girl!

suction cup dildo

The suction cup that’s on this dildo is something some people forget to use but I want you to know it exists and I want you to use it.

Using the suction cup allows you to get into so many more positions, it feels more realistic and you are able to get the dildo really deep without contorting yourself into difficult positions.

You can apply the suction cup to any hard and flat surface, this could be your headboard, tiled floor, shower, bath, or wall. It secures easily and does not move or fall off unless really pulled.

I like to secure mine to my headboard, hold my bullet vibrator to my clitoris and thrust on the dildo, it allows me to control the thrusts and speed with military precision. I also like to secure my dildo to my floor and ride it whilst stimulating my clitoris. You don’t have to do what I do, you just need to learn what feels good for you and learn what you like.

Use your imagination (darkroom, adult content, earphones)

setting the mood

To really get myself in the mood I like to make my room dark and only use candlelight if any light at all, I like to read erotica or watch a little porn and make sure I am going to be alone for the next few hours at least.

It may not seem like a big thing but creating the mood and using your imagination a little will do wonders for your orgasm. I like to imagine a group of people are watching me in the dark, it really gets me off. Just explore yourself, let loose and unleash all of them hidden away orgasms.

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  1. I really enjoy reading everything you write and tell about. It has really helped my sex life spiced it up totally.

    I really like the way you share your experiences. It has helped me to open up more and express my desires.

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