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Best Bondage Gear I’ve Ever Used (My BDSM Collection)

Vanilla sex can be fantastic.

Seriously, even a sex-crazed girl in her 20’s can admit it.

However, even the best vanilla sex and sex toys can get a little boring if it’s all you’re getting week after week.

You need to add some spice and for me that was restraints, domination, teasing and pretty much anything under the BDSM category.

Now I was a late bloomer and only found out I liked bondage and domination halfway through my 20’s.

That’s why I’m taking a rest from talking about my sex life today and instead I’m going to be showing you my wonderful collection of bondage restraints, floggers, blindfolds, sex toys and all the naughtiness between that I’ve collected over the last 2 years.

My Favorite 4-Way Bed Restraints

My fantasy starts with being restrained and personally I find bed restraints to be a must-have.

There’s nothing quite like being spread out naked on my bed with a blindfold on having my boyfriend use and consensually abuse my body for his own pleasure to the point I’m a soaking wet mess.

Now I made a MASSIVE mistake with the first bed restraints I purchased.

I paid an obscene amount of money ($300) thinking money equaled quality.

It doesn’t and within a month one of the hand restraints snapped, my boyfriend tried fixing it, but after that, it just started falling apart.

I then did some research on my favorite sex toy site (LoveHoney) and found a more reasonable restraint for just $44.

This bed restraint: 

image of the best bondage restraints

So this bed restraint is $44 and has over 500 reviews and still a 5-star rating, so I gave it a try (not expecting much).

Almost two years later and hundreds of uses and it’s still as good as new.

I highly recommend this bed restraint.

These Neck And Wrist Restraints Make Me Wet

The biggest problem I have with lots of bondage restraints is the lack of sex position options.

I like my boyfriend to tease my body, suck my nipples, eat my pussy and then deeply thrust inside me till he cums all over my body or inside me and then repeats the whole process.

So I needed a restraint that kept my hands from moving but didn’t affect my legs, so we could have sex and not just tease, that’s when I found this:

neck and wrist restraint

With this neck and wrist restraint, my boyfriend can take me from behind, or from the front, he can even place me on top of him and take me in cowgirl.

I’m restrained, he sucks my nipples, uses this vibrating wand on me and even makes me suck his cock. You should read all about my interesting adventures using a vibrating wand.

It’s the perfect amount of restraint and movement I need.

Do I Have Handcuffs In My Collection?

When I was nineteen I tried handcuffs during sex for the first time and it was my first look into the world of BDSM and I loved it.

As I’ve gotten older and more experienced handcuffs aren’t as thrilling to me as they once were.

However, I still and will always have a pair for roleplaying.

Now, I never, ever trust cheap metal handcuffs, they hurt and break as soon as you put any pressure on them.

I’ve had much better luck with these soft bondage handcuffs:

bdsm handcuffs

These BDSM handcuffs take the pressure and I’ve never replaced them, they feel comfortable in all sex positions and are a fantastic price, these handcuffs also come FREE with a really good blindfold.

What I Use To Stimulate My Nipples

I like rough play on my nipples and boobs and if my boyfriend isn’t grabbing, rubbing his tongue, or a vibrator over them, then you can bet I’ll have these nipple clamps on:

nipple clamps

I actually own a proper pair of nipple clamps, but I use these nipple clamps much more.

The proper ones are a little over the top and leave my nipples sore for days after (which I enjoy, sometimes), but these nipple clamps are a lighter duty and easier to use on a daily basis.

Do I Enjoy Being Spanked?

F**k YES!

I want to build up and to be controlled, teased and then f**ked hard, repeatedly and part of that is If I don’t follow an order or misbehave my boyfriend bends me over or lays me on my front and firmly spanks me.

What he spanks me with changes…

…Sometimes all I crave is his bare hand.

Other times I like a crop to be lightly tapped against my butt and then whipped.

Currently, I like sex rough and our favorite is this spanker from Lovehoney:

image of a bdsm spanker

It’s a good idea to test it before sex, learn what power and speed you like, as this paddle can hit hard, so getting some practice outside of sex is a must.

What about floggers?

Not a fan.

I love the feeling of one rubbing up and down my back, but for spanking, they’re not as consistent and reliable as hands/paddles.

Truthfully my boyfriend can’t get the hang of them, so we tend to avoid them.

Do I Dress Up? 

I’m not a fan of going to BDSM shops and trying on clothes, so it’s taken me a while to include dressing up in my sex life.

However, I recently treated myself to this exposing outfit:

sexy bondage clothes

I was a little worried as I don’t own anything that provocative and I usually have to try stuff on before I buy it, but I took a risk and got it in S/M and as a size 6 it fit perfectly.

When my boyfriend saw me his mouth dropped and once we started having sex his cock was rock solid.

He has a high sex drive, but this was the first time he came inside me and continued going with a full erection and then came again and after 30 minutes was ready to go for the third time.

I’ve never felt so sexy and quickly ordered 2 more sexy sex outfits:

Have I Ever Used A Sex Machine?

When I was in my early twenties I dreamed of using a sex machine, something about having a cock thrusting deep inside me without stopping was a serious turn on.

Sadly I was broke and had to keep this a fantasy till around two years ago when I bought this weird bouncy sex machine:

inflatable sex machine

I begged for a thrusting toy, but this was $80 and not $500 so I gave it a shot.

It was a little tricky to use, but once I decided to sit on it and suck my boyfriends cock things started getting interesting.

It was like a threesome and my boyfriend loved how much I got off on the idea of two cocks inside me.

So, after a lot of internet searching we decided to get a real sex machine:

image of a thrusting sex machine

I ordered this sex machine on next day delivery and I was horny and wet the whole day waiting for it to arrive.

When it came it was like Christmas came early.

My boyfriend laid me down, inserted the dildo (I was so wet lube would have been pointless) and went to work.

Oh, My F**king Lord!

This toy broke me.

I had a powerful g-spot orgasm, then another.

Then my boyfriend restrained my whole body (with the bed restraints from the top of this article), blindfolded me up and teased my nipples applying nipple clamps and got me to the point I wanted something inside me so bad I could have screamed.

He then placed the dildo in me, turned it on slow and placed his cock in my mouth and started deeply thrusting.

At this point the pleasure was so much I left my body.

It was like a threesome, but better.

The sex machine was deeply thrusting into my p***y, my boyfriend’s hard cock was in my mouth, so hard I could feel it throbbing and my nipples were being clamped.

If out of body orgasms exist I had one and f**k do I recommend them.

I passed out and can’t remember the rest of the night, but since then we’ve used this toy to explore our naughtiest fantasies and it pairs with BDSM perfectly.

How My Boyfriend Makes Me Cum EVERYWHERE

If I had to pick a vibrator that made me climax the most it would be this magic wand:

picture of a massage wand

I actually did a whole article about the first time I used this exact magic wand I recommend you read it.

Anyway, my boyfriend loves to restrain my body, place this on my clit and hold it there till I’ve came everywhere.

He’ll also restrain me, then lightly thrust into my pussy while he uses this vibrator on my clit.

I usually end up cumming on his cock while begging him to cum inside or on me…

…Too much information? That’s the way I like it on OMGKinky ;).

This toy is as reliable as they come and my BDSM kit would be nothing without it.

Something else I’ve added to my collection is this naughty little vibrating egg:

remote control vibrator

It’s how I warm up my pussy for the bigger toys and it’s fun to keep in while he spanks me, sucks my boobs and treats me like a sex slave.

Do I Use Large Vibrators? 

I didn’t for the longest time and actually used to be ashamed of enjoying big stimulation and didn’t want to intimidate my then boyfriend.

that all changed with my current boyfriend and I talked about it all in this article about my favorite large vibrator.

To answer the question:

F**k YES!

I’ve had my all-time best orgasms with large sex toys and currently, I’m in love with this one:

large vibrator

I beg for my boyfriend to use this big vibrator on me during sex.

By far it’s the biggest cock I’ve had inside me and I don’t think I could take any bigger.

When it’s in, the deep, filled sensation I get leaves me struggling to last more than a few minutes before cumming, I actually wish I could last longer with this toy so I could let my imagination run wild, but ones it’s inside, it’s all over.

Do I Put Stuff In My Butt?

There’s something so thrilling about anal sex, but my butt is small, so I tend to stay away from the bigger toys and have to warm up a lot before a penis goes anywhere near my butt.

When I’m extra naughty my boyfriend will chuck me on my front, spank me with his hand and lightly put this butt plug inside me:

vibrating butt plug

The vibrations spread all around my pussy, making it feel freaking amazing and pairing that with the neck and wrist restraints and you have me like putty in your hands.

My other naughty anal sex toy:

I recently ordered the Lovehoney smooth mover beads as I wanted something “more orgasmic”:

image of a anal vibrator

I was a little worried about sizing and getting them inside me, turns out anal lube works wonders and after a few minutes, I had the whole thing inside me with no problems.

The anal pleasure is better than butt plugs and it felt great during sex, I’ll be testing them out in BDSM this weekend and will keep you posted.

How My Boyfriend Enhances Our BDSM Sex

My boyfriend surprised me with this penis extender:

penis extender

At first, I laughed then after a few glasses of wine and a romantic meal I gave in and tried it.

Woooo! OMG! F**k!

Just some of the words that come to mind when I think about this toy.

It adds around 2 inches in length and keeps my boyfriend from cumming and that extra size is enough to give me orgasm after orgasm.

I’ve mixed this with being tied up, ball gagged and blindfolded and it’s one of the most erotic experiences of my life.

It feels like a different man and once you add restraints and a blindfold it becomes a different man inside me.

Another essential we always keep handy are these cock rings:

set of three cock rings

We can sometimes spend hours having BDSM sex and my boyfriend uses these cock rings to stay rock solid during sex.

So far that’s what my BDSM collection is made up of. I plan to add a lot more in the future, so if you have any ideas of what I’m missing and should try, make sure to leave a comment below.

 

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