Does Group Sex Live Up To The Hype?

Some of us fantasize about it, wondering what it’s like to be in a room full of people enjoying one another and others take that leap and venture into the world of group sex. There are of course people who are somewhere in between, those who have tried threesomes or even been to a sex party, but actually getting involved and trying group sex is a whole other story. A story I want to tell you all about today.

I Feel Like Group Sex Is Really Common Now

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Maybe it’s just my age or my slutty friend group, but I feel like most women I know have had a threesome, lots of them have had sex with another couple and swapped partners and that leaves the few of them that dream about it and ask me about parties they can attend and how they can experience it too.

It’s such a normal thing now for people to have done, it doesn’t even shock me or surprise me when I meet new people and they met their partner at a sex party event. Perhaps society was just a lot quieter about it back in the day than they are now because I don’t believe this generation is the only one to want it and experience it.

It Was Always One Of My Deepest Fantasies

I kept it deep down, in my very early twenties I thought it was taboo to like something so promiscuous as group sex but I soon learned that life is for living and I love being the center of attention and having two or more people pleasure themselves and me is such a turn on. The idea of being touched and watched by two or more people is what dreams are made of for me.

I also love the feeling of someone new and swapping my partner with them, having sex with another couple along with my partner is such a turn on and something I actively do. I love it and I love being able to do it with someone I love.

Once I met my partner we tried simulating threesomes and it was amazing, but we eventually wanted to try the real thing together. It didn’t take long to set this in place and once we took the plunge it ignited something within us and now it is a regular occurrence.

I Used To Be So Nervous Of Group Sex

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When I first started going to parties I was so nervous. I am a normal human so the idea of getting naked and actually having sex with a stranger was daunting, even if it did turn me on. I hated the build-up, I’m quite naturally awkward and love talking to new people but I was so nervous and felt so out of place.

I used to worry about not liking anyone at the parties, worrying I would look like a complete weirdo if I was just left on my own, I was worried about there being no spark between me and anyone else, but once I started to relax and just let things flow, it was so simple and it was exactly as I had imagined.

My Partner Shared Me with Another Man

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I attended sex parties before I met my boyfriend but once I met him I stopped going for a while and we became interested in sharing one another, swinging and threesomes. It took us some time to do it but once we did, it was amazing. It started with him sharing me with another man.

It was so f**king hot and don’t get me wrong, there were some very awkward parts when we first started but once we were both turned on, sharing one another and having sex with other people next to one another was so easy and actually easier than I had ever imagined it being.

It’s like once the pleasure starts, my inner slut comes out and I zone everything else out. Seeing how turned on my boyfriend was seeing me with another man, turned me on and eventually, we introduced another woman and I was turned on watching him, from there it has just developed into two people enjoying sex with other people.

What Double Penetration Feels Like

Double penetration is something I had dreamed about, whenever I fantasized it was always about having a man in my mouth and in my p**sy. It had always fascinated me and it had always turned me on.

The first time I tried double penetration was before I met my boyfriend, it was at a sex party I had attended. I had been a few times, I was pretty much a regular at this point, joining in with couples, trying things with women and being watched eagerly by the people in the room with me.

The first time I tried DP was an experience to remember. I was joining in with a man and his wife, fooling around on one of the beds, a man joined us, we all played with the woman and then we went down on one another. As she went down on me I sucked her husband’s c*ck, it was great and before I knew it I felt a c*ck entering my pu*sy, I didn’t protest, I loved it. She sucked on my nipples as I was used in both holes, it felt amazing and it was better than I had even imagined. The pleasure I felt from being used up and pleasuring three different people was something I cannot even explain.

The time I had a man in my butt and in my pu*sy was with my boyfriend. We were having a threesome with a mutual friend of ours and after a night of flirting and drinking, we decided it would be great fun to have sex. It was amazing, the thrill was so high and as I was riding him, my boyfriend entered me from behind, their c*cks touching through my ass and pu*sy. The double stimulation was so intense and it’s safe to say that I came hard that night. As did they.

Going To My First Sex Party

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I remember it vividly because it was one of the best experiences of my life.

When I go to these parties it’s like I’m another woman, it took me some time to really learn that about myself but I find most people, including myself, wear a mask or something concealing and it just allows you to really unleash your wild side whilst still maintaining some of your anonymity.

The sex club I go to is very orientated towards women and women’s safety. It’s women who approach and do the talking and its women who call the shots on sex and anything else. It’s a great place and it was ideal for somebody like me who was totally new at all of that and had no idea what I wanted.

I remember the first time I went to a sex party I couldn’t relax, I was so awkward but once I relaxed and leaned into this persona of mine, I had the best sex. I had so much sex that night, more than I had ever had prior to going to the sex party. Everything felt so much easier, everyone was there for the same thing and because I love being the center of attention, having sex with everyone and anyone was making me very popular.

Having Sex In Front Of Others

Having sex with other people watching you seems like it’s going to be difficult and it probably was the first time I did it, but once you do it a few times, it becomes so easy and really thrilling. Before I went to a sex party I had actually done this at college, I had sex with my boyfriend at the time in my dorm room with my friend there, she told me she did actually get off to it which is always a bonus.

For me, having sex in front of others is a massive kink and it really turns me on, it is easy for me to do and when I attend sex parties or clubs, I always encourage viewers as I get off on all of the eyes watching me.

Foursome With Another Couple (My Favorite)

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This is my favorite thing to do with my boyfriend and if you and your partner are looking into the wonderful world of group sex, having a foursome with another likeminded couple is the ideal place to start.

With a foursome with another couple you all have something to lose and something to gain, it’s usually safer as you are with your partner and if you find a couple you like and enjoying spending time with you will usually play all the time.

We have couples that we met online that we play with every month, each couple is special to us and brings something new to the table, whether that be their age, experience of even dynamic.

Also by swinging with your partner, you can still have the threesome experience, I have couples where I and the woman take turns sitting out so we can enjoy two guys at once and then we do the same for the men on different nights. It just works for us and it can work for you too.

I love watching, so it’s just as hot for me to watch my boyfriend enjoy another woman, I always get off to it. Having another couple we can call up regularly is great for us and really helps us to grow and experience new things together.

The People We Open Our Relationship With (Who Is My Type?)

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If you read my blog a lot you may wonder if I go for the older, younger, same age, or all of the above?

The answer is that it all depends on the type of couple we are looking for. I like to go for older men, I find them so sexy, I love having them use me up and swinging with an older couple and going to parties with more mature couples is always a great time.

However, whilst I enjoy older couples we do sometimes go with people who are the same age range as us. More mature couples are easier to find and it’s a bit of a kink for me so they are who we look for first usually.

Any couple we play with, we have to like and we have to get on with. It just so happens more mature couples usually tick all of the boxes.

My Favorite Part About Group Sex

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It’s nerve-racking, but once you get rid of the nerves and begin to settle in and you become friends with the person/s you’re with then you add a whole extension on to your sex life and you can start ticking off sex bucket list items. I mentioned at the very start of this article about people wanting to try group sex and I think taking that plunge and submersing yourself into is one of the greatest things about it.

It’s so beautiful meeting a beautiful sexually open couple and just exploring them and becoming excited by one another. Whether you go to sex parties, clubs, or you just meet people online, it’s so exciting and that excitement, for me, translates into the bedroom.

I love my boyfriend, but I don’t just want one cock for my whole life and he is the same, we both love each other endlessly but we want to try something new whilst still being with one another, group sex allowed us to do that and thankfully we both enjoy it so much.

Why settle when you can have it all?

The Group Sex Jealousy And Issues (During And After)

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Some people like the jealousy that group sex brings, it gets them off in a different way and being able to talk to their partner about it afterward is a turn on for them. However, not everyone gets off on it and for some people, it can be damaging.

I can’t help you not be jealous because it is still there for me and my boyfriend at times, however, we have both got better at talking about it and putting rules into place to limit the amount of jealousy we feel. It’s a natural emotion and it can’t always be combatted.

The only way you can get through it is by communicating, talk through everything with your partner before and after playing with another couple or with other people, respect one another, listen, have code words and use them if you need to get the f*ck out of a situation.

My boyfriend loves me with other men and I love him with other women, this is key, I think jealousy is a lot more present in relationships where they only share for the benefit of one person. You both have to be sure of opening up your relationship and attending group sex events.

There’s a lot of risks involved but if you can work through the issues and fix them before it’s too late, the pros will outweigh the cons.

It’s important to know that just as many issues can come from not opening up your relationship if you are that way inclined. Things like cheating, unsatisfying sex, dead bedrooms.

You have to both be sure it’s what you want to do and understand the risks, otherwise, there will be trouble.

We also have some open relationship rules that always change that help us set boundaries.

If you have any questions, just leave them in the comments section below!

Jess xoxo