There’s no denying that I’m kinky and an extremely openly sexual person but believe it or not, it wasn’t always that way.
A few years before I met my boyfriend I had fun, fooled around with men and women and I had ‘orgasms’ but they weren’t ‘mind-blowing’.
People used to tell me how good their orgasms were and how they could have died at that moment and I just used to agree but in reality, I had no idea what they were really talking about.
I tried different techniques, different positions, and different people in order to get myself off like I was seeing in movies and hearing from my friends but my ‘orgasms’ remained the same.
I would be extremely horny, enthusiastically sucking dick or pu**y, enjoying every second, having sex but my orgasm was just not strong or what I had expected. Ever.
My First Real “OMFG” Orgasm (it broke me)
I love sex, I always have but I felt like I was missing out on something, and in an era where the internet wasn’t as readily available, I couldn’t have just googled ‘How to have an orgasm’.
There were a few months where I wasn’t seeing or sleeping with anyone and at this time young, horny me decided it was time to discover myself in the bedroom, learn what I liked, and learn how to achieve this myth called the orgasm.
I remember this day like it was yesterday because it was so intense for me and the pleasure I felt was like a key unlocking a whole new world of pleasure for myself.
I spent the day making myself horny, wearing a short skirt, no underwear, no bra and still answering the door. Bending over in the supermarket and eyeing EVERYONE up. I don’t know why this turned me on so much at the time but it did.
When I was ready I got undressed, took all of the information I had learned, and just got to work on myself. I let my young imagination run wild, picturing my old school teacher spanking me, picturing myself getting off in front of a room of people, and even taking myself back to the first time a girl licked me out.
I ran my hands along with my hard nipples whilst the other hand kept the same rhythm on my clit. At some point, my fingers slipped inside of my dripping wet pu**y and they just knew what to do, thrusting in and out of my hot, wet, pu**y.
My mind was going back and forth to every hot fantasy I had ever had and without me even realizing it I felt a building up of pressure inside of my pu**y. I kept the same rhythm, and kept my imagination on the right track by imagining every single one of my father’s work associates was watching me, and before long I came.
I came so hard that I screamed out loud. It felt so incredibly good that I smiled.
My bedsheets were soaked, my fingers were dripping and my body felt the biggest sense of relief. I had finally felt an orgasm and I had unlocked a beast. If you want more like this check out my VIP area.
But Then I Got This F**king Toy
I thought orgasms couldn’t get much better, I had now conquered how to give myself an orgasm, I could guide my partners in the right direction and I loved every second of getting off.
However, there were still some boundaries, my clit was too sensitive to carry on once I had came. Sometimes I just couldn’t be bothered to sit and stimulate myself and I want to experience more power when I came.
I prowled the internet and found a sex toy that was going to change my life but I just didn’t know it yet. The sex toy was this one: a massage wand vibrator.
When it arrived I lay on my bed, completely naked aside from my panties as I had read that it can be quite intense when placed directly on the clit if you’re not used to it.
It was so easy to use with the scroll wheel and I am not exaggerating here but as soon as I placed it on my clit it was like fireworks had ignited inside of me.
The vibrations it delivered were so intense and so perfect that my entire body felt like it was vibrating and enjoying the sensations of this wand vibrator.
I felt my orgasm building and within seconds I was climaxing, I felt that my pu**y was dripping wet but I didn’t pull the vibrator off, I kept it exactly where it was and after about 10 seconds the vibrations were giving me incredible stimulation once again.
Before long I was cumming again, it was like something out of a wet dream. This orgasm was more intense, it felt better. I decided to keep the wand vibrator in the same position and see if I could make it happen again and I did. Before long I felt my third orgasm building and I came so hard.
At that point, I did stop the vibrator because if I hadn’t I would still be there now.
The best thing was that it doesn’t make your clit sensitive so that night I could do it all again, I got into the habit of watching porn and just letting the film play as I could cum as many times as I wished.
I did a whole article on this massager which I recommend reading if you want to get more inside on my first few times with the wand vibrator.
Also, if you want to build your collection with more of my favorite sex toys read this article.
How this toy made me cum multiple times:
Multiple orgasms seem impossible, especially if you were like me and never used anything like the wand vibrator and thought multiple orgasms were a myth.
But I assure you they are possible and I am living proof that they are the best things to happen to me. I wanted to explain in a little more detail on how you can actually achieve multiple orgasms in one session.
- I dim/cut the lights, get naked, and have a sneaky affair with myself
I like to get naked, it makes me feel sexier and it really allows me to explore my body. I do like to leave my underwear on as it feels better because the vibrations are intense but if you can handle it without, go for it.
- I hold it against body parts to warm up (nipples, the outer part of my vagina)
Running my wand vibrator over my body is something I recommend you all doing, not just because it pairs as a massage wand but because it feels wonderful, and if you like your nipples being stimulated you will love the sensations from the wand vibrator.
- As soon as I cum, I don’t stop, I hold it in place, fight the feeling and enjoy multiple orgasms.
Fighting the feeling is the main thing you must overcome, once you cum you will want to pull the vibrator off your clit but keep it on there. it will be 5-10 seconds before it starts feeling wonderful again so just hold it out.
- I put an adult video on, something that really gets me off (BDSM, big dick, threesomes)
I don’t want porn a lot but if I have some alone time and really feel like it I will put on an erotic film, sit back, and cum as many times as I want. I don’t have to stop the video and go back to my favorite bits I can just keep on climaxing.
- Later: I started inserting this realistic dildo inside me while using the massage vibrator.
I love the sensation of being ‘filled’ and my fingers just weren’t cutting it so I started using my realistic dildo at the same time that I was stimulating my clitoris. The double sensations felt incredible and cumming is so thrilling with both of these things combined.
Rules You Need To Follow to CUM HARD
Follow my top rules in order to have the best orgasm and cum so hard that you feel exhausted afterward.
Get f**kable (underwear, quick makeup, feel sexy)
Whatever makes you feel sexy when you have sex with someone else, do it. I like to be completely naked (with my panties on) and wear short skirts. Something about this turns me on and if I am masturbating I like to follow the same rules.
Get a LOCK (nothing worse than worrying about someone entering)
I orgasm the best when I know that nobody can walk in on me. I had installed a lock on our bedroom door but if this isn’t possible consider blocking the door with a chair or just ensuring nobody will be home for a few hours.
Create a sexy space (candlelight, oil burner, new bedding?)
This isn’t necessarily for everyone but if it will make you relax, do it. Have a bath, light some candles, have some deliciously scented oil diffusing into the air, and just let your senses take you away for a little while.
Find your sexual fantasy
Go to Erica lust, porn hub, or whatever site you use, and look at every category until you find something that makes you tingle inside.
If you’re lacking in the imagination department head over to a porn site, an erotic blog, or anything else that gets you off and watch some videos without touching yourself. Go about your day and think about these things all day, make yourself horny before you even enter your room.
If you can’t order some online, then use unrefined raw coconut oil, you can buy it in shops, it’s body-safe and feels f**king amazing.
I get incredibly wet when touching myself but I promise that using lube will make it feel even better, coating your sex toys with lube or coconut oil and allowing your sex toys to glide over your nipples and clit when they are dripping wet and silky smooth will feel 10x better.
Stick your hand down your panties and get to work
Just go for it, play with yourself with your hand, and then incorporate your wand vibrator.
The Speed Of The Vibrator
Start on the lowest setting of your vibrator, it’s easy to control with the scroll wheel and increase the vibrations as you go. You will find your favorite and before long you will find yourself cumming again and again.
Different patterns with your fingers work for different people you just have to learn what’s best for you and your body.
- Side to side
- Up & Down
Grab your massage wand and get to work
I find using the massage wand vibrator is a lot easier than learning to cum multiple times by using just your fingers. It allows you to just keep the same rhythm and you don’t really need to do anything aside from holding it on your clit. There’s no skill involved and it feels wonderful.
Edging your way to orgasm heaven
Edging is something I have tried a few times alone and with my boyfriend but I will tell you now it is hard. It’s when you get to the point of orgasm and then don’t allow yourself to cum, just stop what you’re doing. You do this a few times before you just can’t do it anymore and allow yourself to cum and it is so powerful and leaves me shaking.
It’s an amazing way to get multiple orgasms using the wand vibrator, my record is 8! Yes, 8. All from edging, a lot of foreplay, and then just holding the wand vibrator on my clit and allowing myself to cum again and again.
Household Items I Used To Orgasm (Homemade sex toys)
When I was broke and living with my parents there were a few things I used that I found around my home that helped me achieve an orgasm, once I finally learned how to do it I unlocked a beast inside of me that wanted to cum every night and day.
- Electric toothbrush – Change the head of the toothbrush but the vibrations feel great against your clit and nobody suspects what you’re up to.
- Smartphone (using this app) – Use this app and get off with the help of your phone, it’s a little crazy but feels great.
- Showerhead – I liked to sit in the bath and push the powerful water spray onto my clit, feels great and it’s very inconspicuous.
Did a whole article on homemade dildos and vibrators, you can check it out for more ideas.
What vibrator do I use when I’m on holiday/living in a busy house
I know how annoying it can be to be discreet when you live with roommates or family, having an orgasm in peace can almost seem like mission impossible. I used to use a discreet, small but powerful vibrator that you can find in this article.
I also recommend my go-to vibrator if you have a little bit more money to spend and you want to experience combined orgasms that leave you breathless and soaking wet.
Hand orgasm vs sex toy orgasm, which is best?
I became a master of both and I have to say using a sex toy is so much better, it doesn’t just give you an orgasm quicker but you don’t have to worry about your hand getting tired or your mind wandering.
Using a sex toy also lets you experience multiple orgasms and full-body orgasms too. Hands down I would pick a sex toy every single time.
I’m Jess and I’m a woman in my twenties. I created this blog to share my sexual experiences along with the experiences of people from all walks of life. I am actually quite introverted, but my boyfriend and I have a semi-open relationship and it’s really helped me open up and experience things I never thought I would and that’s one of the biggest reasons I created this. I hope you enjoy my blog as much as I enjoy writing for it. Read more about me.