Dildo Size Comparison Chart (Finding The Perfect Size)

Everyone is different, that goes for the food we like, the sleep we get, the clothes we wear and of course, the kind of sex toys that we use. Some people stick to the classics others venture into the weird and wonderful and some fall somewhere peacefully in the middle.

Now, dildo sizes are no exemption. What I like from the size of a dildo you may hate and what I consider small you may think is huge and so today I wanted to talk about dildo sizing and how you can find exactly what you want and need. It can be a daunting task with so much available on the market right now and so let me, your friend Jess, take that stress away from you and give you exactly what you need. I am going to simplify dildos for you so that the one you want becomes exotically clear to you.


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How Are Dildos Measured

how dildos are measured

We read and hear so much about the girth and the length and all other kinds of descriptive measurements when we are looking at dildos but what does it actually mean? Have you ever been confused between the length and the insertable length of a dildo? Between the girth and circumference? Well, I certainly have and I want to help you understand all of this jargon.

Simplifying it in a way so that you can understand and see the exact size that you want because you know your own body better than anybody else. Nobody wants to order a 10-inch dildo only to find themselves with just 7 inches of actual length now do they?

Length: This is referring to the length of the full dildo, from base to tip. This should be specified whether this is all entirely insertable or not. The length is the entirety of the dildo as it is presented to you.

Insertable Length: When a dildo specifies an insertable length, pay attention. This is the amount that is actually able to go inside of you. If you’re looking at 12-inch dildos and only 6-inches of it is insertable you are going to be disappointed.

Width: The width often gets confused with the girth but when talking about dildos the width is referring to the space from one side of the dildo to the other. Generally, we see dildo widths larger than those of an ordinary penis.

Circumference/girth: This is the size of the dildo when you place your hand around it, the entire ‘circle’. The girth is usually a direct correlation with the width as we know that the width of the dildo is going to be bigger or smaller in size depending on the girth.

Items We Can Compare Dildo Size With

dildo size compaired to items you find around your house

It’s a good idea for you to use household objects to work out the size of a dildo, it’s what I used to do before I built my collection. I have been surprised countless times with the size of a dildo when it arrived and I wished I had just compared it to something I knew and so once I learned this trick I’d use household objects as reference points. Here are some things you can use right now to gauge the size of your future sex toy:

  • The average can of soda (Length 4.8in – girth 2.6 in) – This would be a chunky dildo!
  • iPhone:
    • – iPhone XR (Length 6.1in)
    • – iPhone X (Length 5.8in)
    • – iPhone 8 (Length Plus 5.5in)
    • – iPhone 8 (Length 4.7in)
  • AA Batteries – (Length 1.9 inches x 50.5 mm)
  • A Dollar Bill (6 inches wide x 2.5 inches long)
  • Tea Spoon – (Length 5.5 inches)
  • Average Pen (Around 5.5 inches – sometimes a little more or less)
  • Pencil (is around 7.4 inches)
  • Red Bull Can ( 6.5 inches girth and 5.2 inches length)
  • ATM card size (3.37 in × 2.12in)

As you can see so many household items would make pretty decent dildo sizes and by just looking and comparing you will see what looks too small or too big for you. Most items are easily measured so there should be no surprises when your dildo does arrive.

Dildo Size Comparisons Chart

dildos compaired to a can of soda

I wanted to show you some of my favorite dildos compared with average cans of soda. These vary in length and girth but I am a size queen so for me, the bigger the better! Let me know below which size you prefer!

Average Dildo Size:

This is the perfect average dildo. It measures 6 inches with 5 inches of insertable length and 5 inches of girth, this is the same size as your average pen or teaspoon in length which is definitely manageable and pleasurable for the majority of people.

Slightly Above Average:

If you want something slightly above average feast your eyes upon this realistic dildo. Its full length is a juicy 8 inches with 7 of those insertable with a girthy 5.5 inches of circumference to enjoy. This dildo is slightly larger than a can of soda or if you lay down 4 average golf balls in length.

A Fantasy Cock:

This big cock is very impressive 8 inches of insertable length with its full length being a mighty 10.5 inches. That’s two cans of soda or 8 quarters lined up. The circumference is also a jaw-dropping 6.5 inches which will certainly give you a real internal buzz!

The One For Size Lovers:

This king cock dildo is for people like me, those who love to push the boundaries of size. Learning how to fuck a big cock (learn big cock tips here) can be a challenge but it is ultra-satisfying. This dildo measures an incredible 12.5 inches with 10.5 of those being insertable, that’s equivalent to almost 3 soda cans!

How Big Should You Get?

different sizes of dildos being measured

Ahh, you now know all of this knowledge but you still don’t know which size is right for you. Just like everything in life this does vary from person to person, cock size preferences are subjective however we have seen patterns in the past so whichever category you fall into you will more than likely find these sizes will be perfect for you:

Beginners Sizes: Most beginners will want to start around 5-6 inches in length and a circumference of around 5 inches, this is pretty much the same size as your average penis. This is a great place to start as no matter what even if you find yourself a size lover like me, having a smaller dildo is perfect for warming up and for anal warm-ups too.

Average: For those who already know what they want or who want to jump straight in with something slightly bigger an average dildo will have an insertable length of around 7 – 8 inches. It gives you a nice full feeling and stretches you out nicely.

Size Lover: If you really enjoy size then I’d say a solid option ins another with an insertable length of 7 inches and above with a circumference of 7 or above. However, if you want something extra big for them on special occasions then getting something around 9 inches insertable length and 8 inches circumference is perfect. Be warned though that this will take some getting used to.

Measuring Yourself Up

If you have a dildo or other safe to use household objects, then what you can do is get yourself aroused, grab a tape measure or measuring device handy, insert the dildo/object until you feel the best sensation, mark it with your finger, take it out and measure up to see your ideal size.

How Deep Is A Vagina/Anus?

Vaginally: This can change depending on arousal and genetics, but in most cases, you should be able to accommodate most sizes (remember what vaginas are inherently designed for!), however, the size that is comfortable and feels good to you will be based solely on your preference. Although a device like this shooter does help tremendously!

Anally: Contrary to what a lot of people believe, you can actually take the same if not bigger sizes anally. Your anus can also be trained easier to stretch to accommodate different lengths and girths. However, this does take time you can’t just grab a big dildo and shove it in, you need to work your way up (here are some anal techniques).

The Best Selling Size Of Dildo

most popular dildo sizes according to adameve, amazon, lovehoney and google searches

So that you can get a feel for what everybody else is doing I thought I would include the best-sellers at the current time of creating this article, I’ll keep this list updated as much as I can!

Lovehoney: The bestseller is the 6-inch realistic dildo with 5 inches of insertable length and a circumference of 5 inches, the second best-selling dildo is their 9-inch realistic dildo, with 9 inches of insertable length and a circumference of 6.5 inches.

Amazon: The best seller on amazon is the ultra-soft 6.7 inches with 5 inches of insertable length and in second place is this thrusting dildo that’s an impressive 8.7 inches and has the bonus of vibrations and thrusts.

AdamEve: In first place is the All American Whopper 8 Inch Dong with 7.5 inches insertable length (1.6 inches width) and in second place is the Adam & Eve Crystal Clear which is another 8 Inch Dildo with 6 inches of insertable length and 1.5 inches width.

The Biggest Dildo You Can Get Right Now

the biggest dildo in the world

You can get dildos of any size, this is one of the largest in length dildos that I own. But the reality is that the biggest usable size vaginally is around 18 – 20 inches, even though I don’t think many could physically fit it inside, however, one of the biggest if not the biggest retailed dildo is over 30 inches long and is called the moby dick, sadly this just isn’t usable, even for a size lover like me if you see the girth of it.

For anal use, you will find some that are like actual snakes that measure upwards of 30 inches but again there is no way it would all physically fit and these are certainly niche products!

What Size Do I Enjoy The Most?

What works for me, may not work for you. I enjoy larger dildos, the bigger the better for me. I am a size queen and love a challenge but just because I enjoy that doesn’t mean you will too.

Let me know your ideal dildo size below!

Jess ❤

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